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A couple of nights ago we went downtown and ran into the gentleman who had invited us to his Samhain event. I'll call him Lugh. He was with his lady friend, who has had a few "words" with Diana in the past. They were very happy to see us, and we visited for quite a long time. It was nice seeing them, and knowing that things are okay between the four of us. Lugh only mentioned Diana briefly and said nothing about my "tiff" with her. I later e-mailed him to tell him my side of what had happened, because I assumed that she had regaled him with her martyred tale of woe.

Interestingly, he said that she has said almost nothing to him about it, other than that we are not speaking anymore. He knew it had something to do with this other person whom I had told them was being disloyal to us. He told me that they had a Mabon ritual at which she "severed her ties" to me and my husband. He said she was near tears and it was his impression that it made her very sad that it had come to this. So what's happened, apparently, is that her know-it-all bravado when the shit all went down has given way to remorse and regret. If she's feeling like she lost something when we stopped speaking, it explains why she made that pathetic attempt to make contact by bringing the book to my work. I expected as much.

Now, Lugh is a man of honor and I fully trust that he will not divulge anything that we've talked about. He may tell Diana that he saw us, but he won't go into detail. His lady friend is pissed off at Diana because she insulted the way she dresses and does rather treat her like she's not "good enough" to hang with Diana and her loser cohorts. Whatever. That's their issue.

I'm intrigued that she thought she needed a ritual to cleanse herself of her ties to me and my husband. I mean, I just made a decision that I wanted no more to do with her, and that was that. Pretty simple. But she can't just walk away like that. There has to be an element of drama about it. Obviously it did not work, or she wouldn't have come by my work. In her mind, returning that book was part of breaking the ties, but in reality it was keeping them alive. Had I asked for the book back? No. She should have just kept it, given it away, or thrown it out. Coming to my workplace and running the risk of seeing me (which I'm sure is what she was hoping for) is nothing more than wanting to maintain any kind of connection. The thing is, she can't "connect" to me if I won't allow it. And I feel nothing, because my energy is about what is happening to me in my life, and not about people/things that I no longer give any power over me.

So, while I focus on my husband and the challenges that we face in our lives, she continues to fret over what's over and done with. She'd do better to focus on her legal problems and get her life together, but that's none of my business I suppose. It only will be if she harasses me in any way. And believe me, I will make it my business and do something about it. So, Diana, if you're reading this, be warned and back off.